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10 Common Sex Problems Couple’s Therapists Hear All The Time

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In an dream world, every time you had sex would go off without a hitch. Unfortunately, reality doesn’t work that way. As any couple’s therapist can tell you, a variety of problems can arise when you’re getting down to business. Luckily, they know how to solve the following 10 issues so you can have the best sex possible.

“My mind won’t stop wandering.”

“My female clients often say they’re too distracted to be in the moment during sex,” Julie Bindeman, Psy.D., Co-Director of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington, tells SELF. This is especially true for many moms, since the pressure of parenting can obstruct any sexy thoughts. It may seem counterintuitive, but scheduling sex may help. “When you know something is going to happen, you might be better able to adjust to it,” says Bindeman. Beyond that, introducing some novelty via toys or new sex positions can help keep you present.

“Since I’m a man, I can’t be warm and fuzzy.”

That rumor about how guys are unfeeling, sex-obsessed robots is doing dudes a disservice. “When I talk to couples in my practice, the men often feel like they’re trapped by this notion that they’re emotional Neanderthals,” Gary Brown, Ph.D, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles, tells SELF. “Many reveal that they would actually like to feel closer in and out of the bedroom, but they just don’t know how.” Make it easier for him by being vulnerable with your own feelings to encourage a monkey see, monkey do dynamic. You can also be extra affectionate when he does get mushy—it’s all about positive reinforcement.

“I always have to initiate.”

If one person thinks the other doesn’t get the good times rolling enough, resentment can bubble up. “Rather than waiting for your partner to initiate and feeling disappointed when it doesn’t happen, you can do it instead when you’re in the mood,” New York-based marriage and sex therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D., and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, tells SELF. And if you’re on the other end of the equation, understand that your partner’s request that you start sex more often is really about feeling desired, so taking that step can boost your bond in a big way.

“What happened to the foreplay?”

You may have heard this one around the table at happy hour, and if it applies to you, you know how frustrating it can be. “If you’re in the heat of the moment, it’s best to physically show your partner what feels good to you by placing their hand in the right spots,” Fran Walfish, Psy.D., a Beverly Hills child, parenting, and relationship psychotherapist and co-star of WE tv’s Sex Box, tells SELF. If you’re going to speak up, it’s helpful to frame what you want positively, like “I love it so much when you do XYZ.” That way it seems less like a critique and more like an encouragement of something they already do.

“I wish we were more affectionate.”

Luckily, this has a fun fix. “Each day you should tell each other one thing you appreciate about the other person,” Chicago-based therapist Nikki Martinez, Psy.D., and Telehealth counselor for Betterhelp.com, tells SELF. If that’s too rote for your tastes, Martinez recommends incorporating the small moves you probably relied on to show affection when you first started dating: holding hands, putting your arms around each other when sitting together, rubbing each other’s shoulders, and the like.

“Our emotional connection is lacking.”

While it’s OK if both people are just in it for the physical release, things become murkier if one wants an emotional connection but isn’t feeling it. This is what Brown calls “empty sex,” which doesn’t sound especially appealing. To help banish this feeling, work on fostering intimacy outside of the bedroom. “Spend more time together, find new, common activities that can help you form a bond, and explore what brings you and your partner pleasure in multiple ways,” says Brown.

“The pressure to make a baby is insane.”

When a straight couple is trying to conceive, the man may feel like he’s performing on demand. “There should a balance between articulating when you’re ovulating and spontaneity,” says Bindeman. Communication is key in determining how to toe that line, since some male partners want to know every detail about your cycle while others would rather be less clued into the specifics. No matter where he lands, both of you can bring a sense of excitement back into sex, even if the ultimate goal is to conceive. “Doing things like wearing lingerie and sending sexy texts can help the act of making a baby seem fun rather than like a chore,” says Bindeman.

“My partner won’t perform oral sex.”

If you love oral sex but your partner refuses to do it, you might feel rejected. “Then you become angry and disappointed, and you’ll likely lose interest in being sexually intimate,” says Greer. If your partner isn’t a huge fan of oral sex but you really value it, ask them to think about it as something they can do every so often to show they’re invested in your enjoyment. “When someone gives a little, it goes a long way toward their partner feeling cared about,” says Greer.

“Starting a family has completely screwed our sex life.”

Although the sleep deprivation and stress can give your sex drive a real walloping, all is not lost. “I’ve known many couples who were able to resume a fulfilling romantic life after starting a family,” says Brown. Figure out whether logistics are stopping you from feeling satisfied, or whether the problem is even physical in the first place. “This often has more to do with unexpressed or unfulfilled needs for emotional connection and intimacy,” says Brown. One way to suss out the real issue is by making an appointment with a therapist who can talk you both through it.

“I think my partner takes me for granted.”

Feeling like your partner doesn’t appreciate you damages your connection with each other, which only compounds the problem. “In therapy, I have couples communicate this directly instead of dancing around the subject,” says Martinez. “They need to hear, ‘When you do X, I feel like Y,’ so there’s no room for ambiguity. Those “I” statements are essential for helping your partner not feel attacked.

“He ejaculates prematurely.”

If there were ever a time to tread lightly, this would be it. “My experience with patients is that when premature ejaculation is a problem in the beginning of the relationship—except for possible nervousness during the very first time—it pops up as an issue throughout,” says Walfish. If it happens the first time you two have sex, she recommends keeping your womp-womp feelings under wraps and moving on, either to other acts if he’s up for it or to something non-sexual. “If it happens again, this is a problem that is not going away,” says Walfish. Gently encourage him to see a doctor to make sure there’s not a medical cause and get some advice about what will help his body convey when he’s raring to go.

“We just don’t have enough sex!”

This one often muscles its way into relationships after the honeymoon period has worn off. “The person who wants sex more may feel deprived, but their partner might not realize it without a discussion,” says Greer. Luckily, compromise can save the day. “Discuss how often you’d each like to be sexually active, then work out a plan in the middle ground,” says Greer. Or give Martinez’ tip a try: “Set times that you’ve both agreed to be intimate and have a running list of things you’d like to try.” Experimenting with what turns each other on can help you look forward to good sex again.

Bedroom Trends 2021: Top 12 Best Design Ideas and Styles for 2021


Bedroom trends 2021 in decoration resonate in the hearts of many. This room in the house reflects your taste and personal style. Many of us spend most of our free time in this room.

Every year the design industry offers more and more new ideas for decorating bedrooms.

The bedroom is a place of rest, relaxation, security. You relax here not only physically, but also mentally by being away from the whole world. A sleek and stylish design that brings pleasure is an integral part of this room.

If you want your bedroom design to stay relevant for as long as possible, look for neutral, classic, and trendy touches. At the moment, environmental friendliness and minimalism are from the most relevant ones.

We talked to the trend experts to find out what bedroom trends will be big in 2021 and beyond. And while the classics remain – crisp, quality bedding, good accent lighting, practical clothes’ storage – there are some wonderful new looks for bedrooms for the year ahead that you’ll want to embrace.

These are the bedroom trends we predict will be big in 2021. Find more bedroom ideas in our dedicated guide.

1. Montauk Solid Wood Standard 4 – Piece Configurable Bedroom Set


Give your bedroom a rustic chic look with the warmth of this Montauk panel configurable bedroom set. This bedroom set features pieces made of 100% solid pine wood from southern brazil that can last for years. Featuring an eco-friendly design, this bedroom set has minimal impact on the environment as all wood comes from renewable forests.

2. Baskerville Louis Philip Queen Sleigh 5 Piece Bedroom Set


Easily design your bedroom space with this classic Louis Philip set. This set comes with a queen bed frame, dresser, mirror, night stand, and chest. The perfect start to your dream space.

3. Greenport Solid Wood Platform Bedroom Set


This bedroom set blends contemporary and traditional styles that make it feel familiar, yet bold. Its louvered headboard creates a timeless coastal style. Made of 100% solid pine wood, this bed features a sturdy construction that can last for years. Featuring an eco-friendly design, this piece has minimal impact on the environment as all wood comes from renewable forests.

4. Socorro Configurable Bedroom Set


Transitionally styled for your bedroom is this collection. Created for versatile placement within a number of environments the louvered panel accents, distinct framing along with a cool gray finish over birch veneer combine to provide a clean palate for your personal decorative style. This manufacturer provides subtle, yet distinct, a contrast to the fronts of each case piece. The available desk is a functional addition to the collection with keyboard tray and drawer storage.

5. Isamar 3-Piece Configurable Bedroom Set


This contemporary, clean-lined bed gets a rustic twist, making it the perfect pick for industrial lofts and modern farmhouses alike. Crafted from solid pine wood, its frame features a slatted design and a weathered finish. No box spring is required for this piece; instead, a slat-system is included to give your mattress support and space to breathe. Assembly for this product is required. The manufacturer for this product provides a limited one-year warranty.

6. Alexandro Standard Configurable Bedroom Set


This bedroom set features a padded headboard, low profile footboard, and oversized cases with the sleek design. Create a fine atmosphere with this set, it will bring style, and elegance to your favorite room.

7. Vollmer Standard 4 Piece Bedroom Set


Classic styling and quality workmanship makes this group a family heirloom. Bed, Dresser and Mirror, and 1 Nightstand make up the 4 pc set. Mattress not included. Iron accents, Cedar wood bottom drawers, full extension metal drawer extensions, felt lined top drawers.

8. Cecelia Storage Platform Configurable Bedroom Set


With future perspective, this bedroom collection offers a sophisticated style and features an under bed storage. Clean lines and contemporary style provide an elegant style that will bring you the best life guide for your home.

9. Quebec Solid Wood Standard 6 Piece Bedroom Set


With an inviting display of order and opulence, the Renova distressed parchment wood bedroom set brings a homey feeling to traditional stylings. The bed boasts muted silver accents, fancy fluted pilasters, and sturdy French bracket foot bases. The seven-drawer dresser boasts adorable rosette knob hardware in a muted silver finish, English dovetail construction, and wide beveled drawer fronts.

10. Emily Sleigh Configurable Bedroom Set


Set the scene for your teen’s restful retreat with this stylish configurable bed set. Crafted from a blend of solid and manufactured wood, the bed strikes a sleigh-inspired silhouette and boasts a neutral black finish for a look that won’t clash with your current color palette. The included nightstand features two drawers with silver metal pulls for keeping bedside essentials at arm’s reach, while the matching dresser sports six drawers for keeping clean clothes, spare linens, games, and more.

11. Monoceros Full Upholstered Platform 4 Piece Bedroom Set


Modern Design, this fully upholstered group will instantly transform any bedroom into an instant fantasy getaway. Upholstery options: Navy Blue, Grey Features:Button tufted upholstery Wingback Headboard An eccentric upholstered bed that has all the right elements for a rock star

12. Manz 4-Piece Configurable Bedroom Set


If you want to have sweet dreams, it starts with a good bed – and if you’re still looking for the right one, this product is here to help. Crafted from manufactured wood, this platform piece arrives with a slat kit included, saving you a trip to the hardware store. Clean lines keep this piece feeling contemporary, while a white glossy finish offers a sleek motif to your space and blends effortlessly with a variety of color schemes.

What is the latest trend in bedding?

People are beginning to invest in quality bedding and mattresses, something that I always recommend to my clients,’ explains Natasha Bradley. ‘It is the most important element in a bedroom – you spend half your life in bed so it’s crucial that you invest in these items – or your sleep will suffer!’

‘There’s definitely a move towards relaxed bedding and comfy sheets,’ says Gemma Gordon Duff from Gordon Duff & Linton. ‘Linen, organic bedding and chunky wool throws are hugely popular right now and add to that feeling of sanctuary.’

Is grey still in style for bedrooms in 2021?

Grey is still an incredibly popular color, but we as we spend more and more time in our home, we have started experimenting with warmer neutrals, especially in the bedroom.

According to Tiffany Duggan grey has very much been and gone: ‘We love color and a fully grey palette has never really been our thing. We do love neutrals too but err towards warmer colors such as soft buttery whites, bones and plaster hued nudes. I think grey based greens and blues are lovely and a perfect foil to brighter more impactful patterns and colors but the cool, commercial greys of the last decade do seem to be fading in popularity.’

On the other hand, grey tones will always be in style because they are easy to work with,’ says Natasha Bradley. ‘They allow you a base shade that you can then bring other shades such as greens and blues in too. 

However, choosing the right greys for your home is really important as you can end up falling into a trap where the grey hue you have chosen, ends up making your home feel dull and lifeless. When in reality the right shade of grey can make a space feel warm and sophisticated. Choosing a grey hue with a warm undertone of soft green can bring character and color into your home.’

9 Home Office Desks To Help You Work From Home in 2021


Are you looking for the best home office desks? More and more people are bringing their work at home, whether it’s an extension of their workplace responsibilities or a home-based job. No matter what kind of work you do in your house, home office desks are extremely effective tools to make things more organized.

If you’re looking for a tabletop surface for your home-based work needs, you’re in for a treat – here’s our list of picks for the best home office desks, complete with product descriptions and our reasons why we like each one of them.

1. Wade Logan Callendale Glass Desk


SPY’s managing editor Tim Werth swears by this home office desk, which he’s used for the last three years. The Callendale writing desk features a sleek mid-century-style design with a glass top, an open cubby for storage and hairpin metal legs. The glass and wood writing desk will look great in your home office or living room, and it’s compact, lightweight and easy to assemble. If you prefer a more minimalist aesthetic, you won’t regret adding this glass desk to your work-from-home setup.

2. Wade Logan® Jonesboro Desk


Mix industrial and modern styles together to get the Jonesboro Retro Desk with Riser. This Desk is perfect for smaller spaces with its small footprint and offers 2 levels of desk space with the added riser. The finish coordinates with almost any décor while the laminated particleboard desktop and powder-coated metal legs give this Desk a sturdy build along with a fun design. Use the Jonesboro Desk in a home office or create an office space that works for you anywhere in your home. The desktop is large enough to hold your laptop, notebooks, and office essentials while the riser can be used to keep items close by but out of your way. The metal hairpin legs are a fun throwback to popular mid-century design. The Jonesboro Retro Desk with Riser ships flat to your door and requires minimal assembly upon delivery. Two adults are recommended for proper assembly.

3. Zipcode Design™ Gino Desk


Move toward a more productive workspace by giving yourself space to get organized with the clean-lined computer desk. Made from manufactured wood with laminate, this budget-friendly piece features a sizable desktop with a removable printer shelf and sliding keyboard drawer to set a functional foundation. Two drawers on ball-bearing glides provide concealed storage for office supplies, while a sliding shelf and two open tiers offer space to show off a few of your favorite books.

4. Harton Solid Wood Leaning/Ladder Desk


Perfect whether you’re looking to climb the corporate ladder, or if you’re adding a workspace to any sized room, a desk like this is a great option for rounding out your home with an on-trend modern touch. Crafted from a metal frame with solid mango wood surfaces, this piece delivers an on-trend mixed material look in any room. One drawer and two shelves lend this piece handy storage for your office essentials. And thanks to its slim ladder design, this can be leaned against a wall in almost any space.

5. Three Posts™ Leith Desk with Hutch


Say goodbye to home office clutter! With a slide-out keyboard tray, a soft-close cabinet, and two file drawers, this desk has everything you need to turn your ensemble into a well-edited workspace. Crafted from manufactured wood and awash in a handsome cherry finish, it strikes a streamlined silhouette in line with traditional styles. Open shelves provide ample space to stash pens, files, books, and more. Measures 57.24” H x 58.74” W x 23.47” D.

6. Red Barrel Studio® Prahl Computer Desk


An expansive work surface and built-in storage make this Computer Desk. The spacious desktop offers plenty of room to spread out with a computer and paperwork and includes a convenient wire management grommet to keep cords and cables secure and out of sight. The desk’s file drawer opens on smooth full-extension ball bearing slides for easy access to legal and letter size documents, while a box drawer keeps the office supplies and utensils you need close by. Drawers can be mounted to either side for a custom configuration, and a fully finished back side allows the desk to look great no matter where it’s positioned in the room.

7. Ivy Bronx Conlon Desk


Anchor your home office in ultramodern style with this streamlined desk. Founded on a clean-lined steel sled base, this desk is crafted of manufactured wood in a rustic gray woodgrain finish. Set on smooth-operating roller glides, two side drawers offer storage space for folders, files, and office supplies, while one side cabinet is great a computer tower or larger accessories. A “floating” desktop provides plenty of workspaces, while plastic foot glides save your floors from scuffs and scratches to round out the design.

8. Union Rustic Sariyah Desk


This desk is the perfect mix of style and function. The rustic wood look finish blends perfectly with metal legs and drawer handles.

9. Three Posts™ Hunterstown Desk


Whether you run your business from home or just need a spot to craft DIY masterpieces, this desk is an ideal anchor for your home office or living room workspace. Crafted from a blend of solid and engineered wood, this computer desk showcases a traditional silhouette and boasts a solid neutral finish for a look that complements nearly any color palette. Plus, it includes plenty of drawers for keeping office essentials at arm’s reach, as well as a keyboard tray.

So, What Are The Best Home Office Desks?

We have no problem with space, and so we want something larger than the compact desks. And we have a need for storage space for small items and maybe a few files. But as long as there is enough work surface space that can replace the drawers or shelves if necessary.

We are not that bothered about it looking incredibly stylish, as long as it does what we need. Ideally, we would have liked to choose a desk that had some form of storage. There were a couple, but the work surface area was small for us. We would, therefore, go for the…

The 12 Best Bar Stools of 2021 That’ll Help You Make the Most of Your Counter Space


Looking for the best bar stools? Here are a variety of bar stools that are trendy yet classic all at the same time.

The kitchen is the heart of the home, so it’s understandable that you’d want it to be both stylish and comfortable. While the right décor can certainly help, furniture is what really makes all the difference.

Though tables and chairs may be the most common pieces that come to mind, bar and counter stools are necessary for making the most of your kitchen island or breakfast bar. After all, they may be some of the first things someone notices when they walk into your space. Luckily, there are tons of styles out there at different price points, so you can definitely find the perfect ones for your home.

Here, the best bar stools for every style and budget.

1. Avers Bar & Counter Stool (Set of 2) by AllModern


AllModern’s Avers Bar Stool set is a simple, stylish option that’ll work well with any design style. The chairs have a low back style and are available in two sizes—counter stool and bar stool—so you can get the perfect height for your kitchen or bar.

The upholstered set is available in five colors—blush pink, emerald green, platinum, sapphire blue, and vintage gold—and features a foam-filled cushion for prime comfort. The price of the two-piece set is fairly budget-friendly, but if you’re still on the fence it’s worth noting it comes with a one-year warranty.

2. Bungalo 29.5″ Bar Stool by Bayou Breeze


Bungalo 29.5″ Bar Stool by Bayou Breeze Safavieh’s Bungalo Bar Stool is the perfect pick for transforming your kitchen into a rustic, beachy getaway. This solid wood chair has a bucket-seat style and woven frame that feels much more traditional than other styles, although it can definitely work with more modern spaces too.

It’s certainly an investment piece, but its mahogany wood construction ensures it will last over time. It’s available in two seat cushion colors (brown and cream), both of which offer a natural, stylish element to your home.

3. Alessandro Bar & Counter Stool


For a more casual seating option, consider the Alessandro Bar Stool from Wayfair. This solid wood chair features a saddle-style seat that offers a true farmhouse look—even if your home isn’t located countryside. It’s available in two heights and three natural colors (barnwood, chestnut, and storm gray), each of which has a rustic yet refined style. It’s sold individually, but is budget-friendly enough that you can get a few to outfit your kitchen.

4. Joss & Main Bar & Counter Stool (Set of 2)


If you’re looking for chairs that’ll leave as little visual impact as possible, look no further than these acrylic stools from Joss & Main. The timeless, clear design will work with tons of aesthetics, from mid-century modern to minimal to glam, with ease. The Monnier Stools have a full-back style and feature a slight recline, and you get to choose between three leg finishes for a little extra style.

Though the chairs are bit of a splurge, you’re getting two stools—and the barely-there design makes them perfect for smaller spaces. If you aren’t ready to commit, it’s worth noting it comes with a 90-day warranty, so you can see how they work in your space first.

5. Aurora Swivel Adjustable Height Bar Stool (Set of 2)


These bar stools offer a spot to sit and enjoy a quick breakfast at your kitchen counter or island. They’re made from metal and feature an open cross-back design with a wooden accent along the top edge for a hint of mixed material design. The seats are upholstered in faux leather and filled with foam to provide just the right amount of support as you sit. Plus, the swivel base allows you to leave the counter without having to scoot back in the chair. Four flared legs and a round crossbar support the stool. These bar stools are sold in sets of two.

6. Bak 28″ Bar Stool (Set of 2)


If you’re looking for an elegant yet minimalistic look in your kitchen then this comfortable, polypropylene seat bar stool is just for you. Thanks to the big metal frames, this bar stool is strong and secure while the floor protectors keep your floors from getting damaged. The seat is also quite unusual having a handle on both sides and the entire look is simple yet extremely practical and sleek. The stool does not swivel; neither is it height adjustable.

7. Luca Counter & Bar Stool (Set of 2)


This pair of stools have a simple bucket seat that’s inspired by mid-century modern design. Each seat is contoured for comfort, and upholstered in a neutral faux leather that looks like it’s been gently worn in (and is super easy to clean with a dry cloth). They also have subtle topstitched detailing where the seat and back meet. These stools are supported by tubular sled bases with back support bars and fronts support bars that also serve as footrests. Plus, they come with adjustable floor glides to protect your hardwood and tile. Assembly is required, but all you need to do is attach the base to the seat.

8. Bednarz 24 Bar Stool (Set of 4)


This wooden bar stool is understated; yet will flawlessly fit into any background. They are durable enough for use inside your home, a shop or café as well. Constructed from robust steel, they also contain non-mar foot glides to keep your floors looking immaculate. The set of four stackable bar stools is a perfect choice for seating at a breakfast nook for a busy family and then stacking away until the next use.

9. Yarnell Counter & Bar Stool (Set of 2)


Inject some style and color into dinner time with this barstool! Available in Eight fun and vibrant colors, and each of them is guaranteed to be a hit in your contemporary home. Thanks to fixed strong X-shaped support to the seat, 4 sturdy metal legs with a wooden look finish or golden finish would bring a natural look. It is ideal to compliment your dining table or to accentuate your home office, bedroom or living room or elegant look. It is ideal to complement your bar table to accentuate your kitchen or dining room.

10. 4-Piece Set Of Household Bar Stools, 24-Inch Indoor And Outdoor


Made of high-quality metal frame and wood material, it is sturdy and durable. With this bar stool, you can have dinner with your family or friends conveniently. The kitchen chair features a space-saving design, it can be stacked when not in use, free up your space. Each bar stool has an X-brace under the seat, provides additional support and stability. The bar chair will not scratch your floor when using, suitable for indoor use.

11. Hayden Bar & Counter Stool (Set of 2)


This expertly crafted bar stool with wood grain details adds austere charisma to your furniture collection. Thanks to the clean design, its charm is understated in a rustic kind of way. Feel free to add it to your dining room table, Kitchen Island or bar area to compliment any wooden table or countertop. The backless bar stool contains solid Rubberwood frames as well as a two-tone black and brown base and seat color.

12. Marceline Hydraulic Adjustable Height Swivel Bar Stool (Set of 2)


Make a statement in your kitchen or outdoor bar area with this stylish and functional bar stool. The metal stand is finished in shiny chrome, and the pedestal base also doubles as a footrest. The unconventional seat is curved and has pointed armrests which are all enveloped in Fox leather upholstery and a glossy hue. The swivel barstool is also height adjustable. The eye-catching bar stool will make the perfect addition to your kitchen island.

What to Look For in a Bar Stool


The price of bar stools can range anywhere from $60 to upwards of $300, and there are several factors that contribute to the cost—brand, material, and size being a few of them. One of the easiest ways to keep your purchase more budget-friendly is to buy bar stools as a set, if the option is available, as you’ll usually end up saving more than if you purchase them individually. Be sure to keep in mind materials, too—you can get the luxe look of leather with faux-leather options and save a few bucks that way.


Most stools are offered in two heights—counter stool and bar stool—so be sure to choose which one suits your home best. Counter stools are best for most kitchen counters, but if you’re outfitting a true at-home bar, you’ll want to go with the bar stool height. Make sure you measure the area you’re outfitting to be certain you’re getting the right height. It’s also worth noting that the width of the chair is important, too. If you’re working with a smaller space, it’s best to consider narrower options.


When it comes to bar stools, there are tons of styles out there to choose from, from glam to industrial to modern. Be sure to think about any other elements that are important to you, like shape, back support, and materials. You can find more traditional stools that are both back-less and arm-less, or you can go all-out with a stool that looks more like an armchair on metal legs.